Eight simple tips for being a great bridesmaid

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For most women, being asked to be a bridesmaid is an incredibly honour. Unfortunately however, honour or not, it’s also a very serious responsibility. And contrary to popular belief, it’s a responsibility that many women aren’t automatically ready for. It’s important to realise that being a good friend and being a good bridesmaid are sometimes two very different things. And just because you’re one, that doesn’t automatically mean that you’re going to be the other.

Should you find yourself both a bridesmaid and a little clueless about exactly what the job entails, here are eight simple tips for handling the role in style.

Have the Talk

First off, there’s the small matter of communication, it’s vital. Don’t assume that you know what the bride wants. Some brides want to do everything themselves. Others expect plenty of help. The only way you’re going to know which kind of bride you’re dealing with is to actually sit them down and talk about it. And needless to say, the earlier you have this conversation, the better.

Show Up

Speaking of things that the bride expects you to do, whenever there’s a wedding themed celebration, you’re expected to be there. From the bridal shower to the bachelorette party, if the title has the word wedding in it, the guest list has bridesmaids. Of course, if you live at the other side of the country/world, that’s a reasonable excuse. Unfortunately however, that’s pretty much the only one.

Provide Emotional Support

Being a great bridesmaid isn’t just about wedding planning and bridal showers, it’s also about providing emotional support. Make no mistake, for all its wonders, getting married is incredibly stressful. And it’s your job as a bridesmaid to help minimize that stress as much as possible. In other words, for every bride that’s an emotional wreck, there’s supposed to be a bridesmaid that’s an emotional rock.

Try to Get on with the other Bridesmaids

Considering the manner in which bridesmaids are chosen, a certain amount of incompatibility is to be expected. Should you find yourself teamed up with somebody that you hate, there are two potential solutions. The first is to try to one up them on absolutely everything. The second is to try to bond with them over the fact that you both care deeply about the bride. For some reason, the latter tends to work out a lot better.

Leave all Decisions to the Bride

As a bridesmaid, it’s going to be your responsibility to help the bride make important decisions. It’s important to remember however that the final say in those decisions is always going to belong to her. If you don’t like her dress, her choice of flowers, or her registry decisions, voicing those concerns is rarely, if ever, a good idea. In other words, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

Say you Like the Dress (Even if you Don’t)

Speaking of biting your tongue, when it comes to bridesmaid dresses, there are two important rules that all bridesmaids must follow. First off, the bride chooses the dress, not the bridesmaid. If you’re lucky, she will involve you in the process but she’s under no obligation to do so. The second rule is that you say you like the dress, even if you’d like nothing more than to burn it.

Throw the Right Bachelorette Party

When planning the bachelorette party, try to tailor the celebration to the brides unique personality. If she wants to party until dawn, so be it, but if she’d prefer a quiet meal with friends, don’t try to change her mind. When it comes to bachelorette parties, the bride gets what the bride wants. And needless to say, she doesn’t pay a penny for the privilege.

Advocate on the Big Day

Finally, when the big day arrives, try to advocate for the bride as much as possible. Pre-wedding jitters are stressful enough without having to deal with the inevitable last minute ceremony arrangements. Take firm hold of the brides mobile and field all last minute questions. Pay those who need to be paid and argue with those who need to be argued with. In other words, try to limit the brides responsibilities as much as possible.

About the author: Jamieson Dean is a wedding photographer in Toronto. He is passionate about his profession and likes to come up with snazzy pictures, that capture the fervor of the wedding. Besides his day job, he likes to indulge in many of his hobbies like coin collecting, listening to music etc.

05 Jun

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